Archive for the ‘Love’ Category

Over the years I have experienced and seen other experience all sorts of relationships.   And what surprised me was how many relationships went sour because of the little things.  As the saying goes ‘it’s the little things that count’.  Most things in life have instructions or rules or guidelines of which we have to abide by but it’s oddly enough the most natural thing to human beings and the most difficult and complex does not come with a manual of any kind….  Love and Relationships.

From closer inspection of relationships I put together some simple rules or guidelines that have been proven to make things much easier.

1. Honnesty – What’s the point in lying to your partner?  It’ll only get you into bigger trouble later own the track when all is revealed and there will go any form of trust you had.  Honesty also leads into being open and communicating with your partner.  Talk things through if something is wrong but yes you both are allowed a cooling off period if you had a big fight with them.  Everyone needs time to clear their head.

2. Assumptions – NEVER assume anything.  Your partner cannot read your mind and vice-versa.  This is the biggest starter of fights and arguments.  For example don’t assume your partner knows to get milk on the way home, even if they are the ones whom finished the old carton, or don’t assume your partner is happy to go out camping on the weekend just because nothing was planned (make sure to ask first).  And the biggest one.  Don’t assume they are annoyed at you just because they are cranky.  There could be many reasons.  Try asking if they are ok or what is wrong.

3. Affectionate – be affectionate toward your partner, things as small as a kiss on the way past the couch or gestures as big as snuggling on the couch instead of relaxing in your own on the recliner when watching telly.

4. Help – Help around the house is not as hard as it sounds.  Lets say you work all day and your partner is home all day.  Just put your clothing in the washing basket, it’s not that hard, wipe your crumbs off the bench if you made a sandwich, put your glass in the kitchen when you are done.  The little things make such a difference.  Oh yes, I almost forgot, make sure they know you appreciate the work they do at home to make sure its clean and tidy.

5. LOVE – last but not least is the L word.  Tell them you love them and do it often.  Not overdoing it but often so your partner knows they are special.  Because as soon as you loose that special feeling, that’s when people leave or cheat because that is what a human is after in a relationship.. to feel they are special to the other person.